Parenting Wisdom

It's not always easy, but so, so important in forging 
a strong relationship with your grownish children. 
Trust they'll use good judgment.
Making decisions is how they learn. 
We might not agree with all the choices they make, but we might be wrong.

I love the point Essy's father makes to her that the world is changing and our children's future is different than what we looked forward to at their age. 
They need to adapt in ways that may feel scary to us.

But in the wise words of both my father-in-law and my own dad, 
"Put your arms around them and love them."



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